Regarding Change: Holding the Tension Even When it Hurts

When challenges arise for each of us, it is easier to turn to denial or distraction rather than holding the tension of what's arising long enough to allow the self-regulating function of the psyche to take over. C.G. Jung suggested that the opposing attitudes of the ego (which gets us through some tight spots, usually by choosing the path of least resistance) and the unconscious or greater "Self" (which has our personal growth and spiritual awakening at heart) can be mitigated and even transcended if we are willing to regard the reality of our struggle and hold the tension long enough for some kind of insight and movement--a transition--to occur.
 

Employing or maintaining a state of "disregard" in daily life is quick, easy, and painless: almost a default mode of survival in our western consumer-based culture where everything moves faster and faster with each passing moment. In a world where we are focused on meeting deadlines, following timelines, achieving goals, and taking action, we are often are unwilling to make the time to find value in things, people, or ideas that arise around us.
In our haste, we often disregard our health, our emotions, our memories, and our loved ones. We dismiss the natural world, the earth, the landscape around us. We ignore famine, violence, and disease if it’s not in our own backyard. And we judge and disregard "others": other races, other cultures, the "other" gender, and other beliefs.

Worse, we disregard the profound feelings of loss and longing that run like deep currents beneath our intensity and our frenzied pace, relegating them to the dark shadowy realms of the unconscious where we are not willing to look. In fact, we have ignored so much and so many of our true deep needs and emotions, we individually and as a whole, feel like (Click here to read entire post on DepthPsychologyList.com)

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Comment by Lourdes Viado on November 11, 2015 at 10:17pm

Hi Bonnie,

Thank you for the warm welcome and for this blog post which is right on time and spoke clearly and directly to me.  I needed to read it to ground myself again and to remind myself of what matters most.  I have not had a chance yet to delve into the site, but that is my plan for my next few hours of quiet time - my son is 2 and a half:) - so it is a challenge to find those moments w/ the other demands of life. 


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